Tuesday, February 01, 2011

Introduction


        
Today, I am here just to talk about  girls.  Yeah, yeah, yeah, about girls, again... Why not?  I am a boy, and I was born to talk about girls. I can say it, because girls were born to be an object of our discussion, and we do it with big pleasure (just remember the history of creating a woman). Ok, and now we will turn to some core questions will be discussed in this article. Who does really know how to behave with girls? What do all girls want from guys? Probably, the most important, how to keep strong relationships with girls? A little hint must be done here, there will not be fiction, every my article will be based only on my own experience, and my opinion, or opinions I have heard from friends.
Some of the readers (especially girls) can say: "Why do guys discuss girls every time, and try to accuse of them for their actions". I want to acquit men from all of the world: "Men do it, because they love girls." 

For those, who is not familiar with a term "a girl", I can give a deffinition. Firstly, I can refer to a deffinition from Wikipedia, I am almost sure that you have never checked it: "A girl is any female from birth through childhood and adolescence to attainment of adulthood. The term may also be used to mean a young woman." Undoubtedly, this deffinition does not tell about psychological features of girls' mind (human mind is divided into male and female), that's why it should be amplifed a bit. I would add: "Girls are very moody, vulnerable,  unpredictable, and demanding creatures." Now, I have to make a hint for guys, do not delude yourself by saying: "Is it all about girls, only four adjectives?" No, no , no... be careful, these four adjectives cover quite many sides of female character, especially the last one, but we will talk about it later. Ok, now we know something about girls, or more exactly, you know what I know about girls. In real life, these adjectives are not useful, at least for me...because girls are much more complicated in understanding. However, at the same time, it makes them very interesting. Now, we are gradually comming to one of the core adjectives mentioned above - unpredictable. I have a couple of questions, one is for guys, and one is for girls. "Guys, have you ever known beforehand, what you girl is going to do, or to say?". "Girls, have you ever known beforehand, what you are going to do, or to say?" I can answer to the first quiestion, as I am a guy: "No, I have never known." Also, I can try to answer to the second question too: "Yes, they know." BUT, I have to add something at this point, girls know beforehand not because they analyze as many possible concequences and find as many alternatives, but because it does not matter what guys say or do, girls will act as they wanted at the beginning.  For example, I know one story, and it happened to my friend. Now you should turn on your imagination. Tom (let's call my friend Tom) and his girlfriend just have moved to common appartment, it is serious and very liable step in relationships. They spent all their free time together doing the same things. But, you, probably, know that it is almost impossible to spend all your free time with your half, and sometimes you need to be with your friends. The first time (I count from that day, when they moved to a new appartment), Tom planned to go, and have some fun with his friends, but he did not know how to inform his girlfriend. He decided not to say about friends, and said that he had some business to do (it was a big mistake). When his girlfriend found out what he really did (played PS2 at friend's home), she was very angry. She shouted at him, and blamed him that he did not love her. The second time, when Tom had become smarter and more experienced in this question, he decided to say his girlfriend about his plans in advance (it was a big mistake). Just imagine, Tom:-"Listen, honey, I am going to play PS2 tonight with guys. You can call your friends, and spend your time with them." Tom's girlfriend:- "WHAT??? You leave me alone, how can you do it?! Your friends are more important for you, than me. You do not love me." Thus, does it matter what to say in such kind of situations, you will get the same result at the end. That is the story.

You can say, it is not "unpredictability", in contrast, you can predict the consequences. No, you can not, girls will surprise you anyway, you will hear what you did not expect to hear. One day, when you have experienced all the situations, you can predict what is going to be next, but it is impossible. You need to live together for a long, long time until this day has come. Guys, be careful when you are going to do something, or to say.
Unfortunately, I have to stop the introduction part here for today, but the topic will be continued. Please, add you questions and comments, I will answer to them with a big pleasure.